Emotional Intelligence~~

Emotional Intelligence:


1. Self Awareness - FOCUS ur attention on ur emotional state- being aware, in-the-moment, of wad u're feeling. Are you happy, excited, worried or angry? Given that information about ur emotional state, wad should (or shouldnt) u do or say next? Use dat information to help u make effective decisions to achieve better outcomes for yourself and others.


2. Self Regulation - Having the skill to be able to choose the emotions u wan to experience, rather than being the victim of wadever emotions occur - not letting others "push ur buttons". It is about possessing the ability to manage ur emotional state. Do not confuse this with "burying" or "stuffing" ur feelings. The skill to choose the emotions u want - typically to be able to TRANSFORM negative draining emotional states into positive productive ones.


3. Self Motivation - The ability to use ur emotions to cause urself to take positive action to continue to persistently pursue goals even in the face of significant adversity or difficulty. This is about USING ur emotions to be positive, optimistic, confident and persistent rather than negative, pessimistic and second-guessing urself and ur decisions.

4. Empathy -  The ability to LISTEN effectively and accurately enuf to put urself in other person's shoes. This is not necessarily to agree with them, but to truly understand the situation from their point-of-vie in order to IMPROVE communication, problem-solving and trust.


5. Nurturing Relationships - The ability to DEMONSTRATE sincere care for others. Through word and deed, demonstrate appreciation for ppl's effort and contribution. This is about setting a positive tone of cooperation no matter how difficult the situation or conversation and having other's best interests in mid while focusing on achieving goals to create win-win outcomes.






Quoted by the 'Nature & Health' ... =) 

Cheers~

WHY??? WHY? WHY???

There is indeed a lot of questions on “WHY?”. Why why why??? There’s simple WHY questions and complicated WHY questions…

Why is it like this?
And Why is it like that?
Why do you have to be like this?
And Why do you have to be like that?
Why do you like this?
And Why do you dislike that?
Why do you love this?
And Why do you hate that?
Why do you prefer this and not that?
Why do you have to make such decision but not the other one?

Why do you have to think so much?
And why can’t you stop thinking?
Why do you have to be sad or upset?
And why not just let it go or forget about it?
Why do you miss someone?
And why you can’t forget about that someone?
Why is it that I have to listen to you?
And why can’t I have my own point of view?
Why do you reject instead of accept?

WHY WHY WHY???

Although the WHY questions seem to have an answer or answers to them, there is a possibility that the WHY questions could not be answered. So, why is this so? Again, the WHY question arise… Haha…

Ok la.. Don’t make things too complicated. Ignore the WHY questions when u r doing something. Don’t make these WHY questions to bother you. Keep your mind away from the WHY questions!!! Lol… (if only it is that easy… I know I know… hehe).

However, sometimes thinking and having a solution or answers to the WHY question may be beneficial… Haha… You may ask “Why is that so??” Mmm….

Let’s say in most of the time, you have the answer for the WHY question/(s), is just that you will prefer to say:”I don’t know….”. Right? ;)

So, why do you have to say I don’t know while you do know why… Hmmm… Sometimes, you feel lazy to talk bout it or you totally don’t feel like talking bout it. And sometimes, the answer is the Secret… Ooo….

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